Destiny Wisdom - everyone is going through something

Life is a series of experiences from which we learn but it can be a lonely place sometimes. But knowing you are not alone was my saving grace many years ago and I would love everyone to feel this connection as it's like having a great big beautiful hug.

It is a connection to a powerful energy which is difficult to explain but a connection to your higher self is part of your inner wisdom, which include your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions. Each experience you are going through is part of your life's plan as we need the good and the difficult to understand the difference. Plus to appreciate the joys of friendship and love to share some of those moments.

Imagine walking around with a placard saying 'do you know what has just happened to me' as I feel sad or happy today because everyone else is so wrapped up in their own life's experiences that sometimes it is hard to share how you feel.

If you are buzzing with excitement it is so much easier to share and shout about but if something hurts inside or something you have struggled with all your life is stopping you moving on, then I maybe able to help or friends will have a listening ear if you dare to ask.

How many of you reading this will say "Oh I can't bother them because they are so busy" but if they knew your feelings, then I am sure they would take the time to listen. Just sharing your feelings sometimes can create an enormous shift as if the load has lifted from your shoulders even if they can't help alter your situation. But so often we don't like to ask for help. I was one of those people for many years but then I realised that I would always help others if I can but receiving love is not always easy. Sometimes it is easier to give than receive but it is important to have a balance of both.

I remember vividly the day after my dad died I crashed my car but of course the person whom I drove into had no idea of why I had a moment of lack of concentration. They could not alter my situation and if I had told them I would have burst into tears but all I wanted to shout was 'do you know what I have just gone through' but of course they would have felt guilty that they couldn't do anything so what was the point.

So I think I am trying to say please don't ever be judgemental of others as everyone is going through something. That is part of life and we can get through what ever is thrown at us because it is just an experience we need to explore but there is always some one listening up above in a higher realm of consciousness so we really are never alone. That's not a scary thought - that's a beautiful one if you want to feel that connection and understand your life better.

I have a secret...the priceless gift of your smile

Around the world millions of people are doing it, Around the world millions wish for it. And in some parts of the world some have rarely seen it. And yet this priceless gift costs us nothing!

We go about our day sometimes with out a care in the world. On other days we carry the woes of the world on our shoulders and nothing can make you happy; yet alone smile. And yet just one smile from a friend or a stranger can lift our hearts and make us feel special.

We often don't consciously think about how we react to such a small simple gesture but it's a priceless gift which is FREE to give! Yep, that's right it costs us nothing. Sometimes £'s or $'s are exchanged in business when a fantastic deal is done and happiness and laughter makes us smile. But so often I can travel on the train or bus and see everyone with their heads down, frightened sometimes to look at people as they are so busy rushing around 24/7 and yet to receive a smile can brighten their day .

We can go to an Event and be ignored. We can live in a street and feel lonely. We can live in a town and know no-one. And yet everyone wants to be acknowledged in some way even if they don't realise it. I am so pleased I live in the country as everyone says 'hello', smiles, we may pat their dogs whilst on their walks but it makes me feel I am never alone as there is always someone willing to help if need be. I know all my neighbours and the local pubs are a hive of friendlyness and yet unfortunately they are dying out which will kill some communities. Is there anything better than sharing a conversation over a meal around your table at home, in a local restaurant or pub with your friends or family and hear laughter buzzing in your ears!

How many of you reading this know your neighbours, your postman or talk to your local shop-keeper and I bet there is a lonely person sitting on their own down your street. Especially the elderly who can fear to go out or mothers with young children who feel sometimes so isolated and would appreciate the gift of your smile as you say 'hello'

Some kids & adults today hide behind computers having 'conversations' on screen! Social Media is fantastic for many things but I truly feel it is killing the art of conversation and personal connection. You can't feel the emotion of a machine. It doesn't smile back at you or make you feel better about yourself if you are having a stressful day. It can't respond in a way to make you feel better or make you feel happier unless you come across something to move you and make you smile. And then no-one else sees that smiles other than the machine!

Some years ago I worked with some colleagues who sat in the same room and emailed each other! Our group were asked to leave this communial office and we were placed in a room out of ear shot as they found us strange! I won't comment on that but I am sure we all know office colleagues who could do with lightening up and finding something - even if it just one small thing - to smile about!

Maybe I am wrong but I smile and talk to people in restaurants, in the street, on the train and yet they are complete strangers. But do you know something....they always smile back.

So why don't we use this wonderful gesture to make the world a better and happier place. Just one extra smile a day to a complete stranger will make them and you feel a lot happier....and it will cost you nothing - just 10 seconds of your time.

Go on I dare you ....because you may never know how you can change someone' life by making them feel special as you give your priceless gift of your smile.