Powerful relationship excercise

Do you ever feel as though you and your partner are moving in different directions or failing to understand each other and consider each others needs? This activity shows you how you can re-connect with that special person in your life.

Sit down together and just talk about your feelings. Then, over the next week, separately make a list of five to ten things that you each want out of the relationship. Make another list, of all the things that you love about the other person, and then write down some of the things that have changed over the years. Take your time. When you both have your lists ready, arrange some quality time when there will be just the two of you, and spend the evening discussing each and every item on each list.

I hope this activity enables you both to discuss openly the key elements of your relationship. I also hope that it encourages mutual respect.

You will probably find that other issues come out, which are not contained within your lists; it may be painful to discuss these. However, if someone is unhappy, surely it is better to talk about problems and feelings, rather than just hiding them? This is when so often things start to go wrong in long term relationships. This can help re-build the relationship and is a very worthwhile exercise.

Taken from my book Master Your Own Destiny - page 127

Stepping outside our comfort zone

Well I have to say this was fun but scary at the same time. Creating my first video was a daunting experience as I find speaking into a none human object much harder than speaking to a human or even a large audience! It doesn't seem real; which of course it isn't but having someone to chat to helped as I felt I was speaking to him and it flowed more naturally.

This is something I have put off for so long but now I think I have got the bug. It was and still is something I feel I have loads to learn as to accomplish a smooth flowing chat/video is important but at least it shows I am natural because of the mistakes and slight hesitations. But I also didn't realise how often I blinked - this I thought was amusing so trying to talk and keep my eyes open at the same time is not that easy.

If you want to watch and comment I would greatly appreciate your feedback because as I say there is loads for me to learn....but please be gentle with me. I could have chatted for hours as to describe my life in a nutshell was difficult to say the least. Anyway I hope you enjoy it as much as I did making it and love to all who view http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7TB_-sRI42I